Mary Beth Writes

I wrote this yesterday: “I’m all over the place. How about you?”

Today I’m: “I think I lost weight last night and it was some of the heaviness of persistent stress.”

It’s happening, Friends. Yes, we all know nothing will be sensationally simple going forward. Right now, the Senate is where it was pre-election. (Though hold on, Stacey Abram’s Amazing Georgia is having TWO senate races in January.)

The Trump story right now is that Dems cheated by stuffing ballot boxes with Biden ballots. If Dems composed (tens of thousands?) of fake ballots to tip the scales … then why didn’t those durn cheaters vote for Dem senate and other down-ballot candidates? Did Dems not pay enough to the “backroom thugs?”

Sheesh.

What we witnessed and have been a part of of - is a nation saying "We are better than this." 

An opinion I’m seeing too many places - and I’m arguing it every single time.

“White women increased their support for Trump in this election.” And then the statement is jumped on by many others who are furious at white women.

Hark! Hark! THERE ARE NO EXIT POLLS ON ABSENTEE BALLOTS. Whatever opinions are being tossed around right now on the basis of demographic groups of voters – white women, Black youth, Hispanic males, college students, Ferrari owners – all of those stats are based on exit polls of people who voted IN PERSON.

It is not real information. Fight pigeonholing based on cardinals, bluebirds, and penguins.

There’s a lot to figure out but we won’t learn anything based on exit polls only of people who went to the polls and not by finding out who voted by mail and drop-off. 

There’s so much talk right now about how dysfunctional our society has become. All the cheating, lying, violence, rioting, harmful drug-using, laziness, racism, and xenophobia.

It’s the worse society most of us have seen in our lifetime. That’s what we are being told and that’s what way too many of us believe.

Most of us (who read my small website) are white; that’s the way my cookie crumbles.

Here’s what I think (and hope). I think the statement that society has become terrible – is the swan song of white privilege.

It’s been bad out there for a long, long time. Like this: I’ve been reading American history for decades, but it was only last year that I heard about the Tulsa Greenwood massacre. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tulsa_race_massacre  I knew that it is more fraught to be black than white in this society. I didn’t know about “the talk” Black parents have with their kids, because it is that effing dangerous to be a black teenager walking down a street. It never occurred to me that parents and grandparents of kids who are black live with an entire extra layer of stress and care.

Yes, there’s a lot to take in about being an American in 2020. But let’s not fall into wallows of self-pitying solipsism. Let’s not walk around pining for our personally less traumatic pasts. While we were having rather safe and pleasant lives, others were – and still are - suffering the ravages of systemic racism.

Like this right now: Did you know 140 people drowned two weeks ago, trying to emigrate to some place they could get jobs? https://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2020/11/02/refu-n02.html Are we aware that our sisters and brothers in Central America – RIGHT NOW - are on rooftops waiting for help? https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/other/storm-eta-floods-honduras/vi-BB1aJGDh

I have more to say, but it’s sunny and 70 degrees outside and it is my holy belief that when the weather is like this in the Midwest in November, I better go out there.   

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This is the URL that Karen Kant mentions in her comment.  I'm so incredibnly moved. Read the story and then listen. Yes, this is what we mean.  Listen Here. 

Here is a jarring and ferocious poem about the world we want, that David sent to me. Read Here 

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Damn. When we go outside our privileged lives, what's out there is hard and beautiful and invites us to be powerful enough to listen and care. I inserted the URL at the end of my post, so you all can easily access it.

100% yes Thank you for this

YES!!!! On all counts. Lot's of work to do. Patricia/Fl

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Y is for Yellowstone

9/27/2023

Back in February I asked you to give me topics to write about that would correspond to the alphabet. Sometimes several of you sent ideas for one letter and sometimes I wrote about all of them (I’s and S’s) Here we are at letter Y for which your suggestions are Yummy Food and Yawns. The word yawn absolutely makes me yawn; no way I could write about that - I would yawn for hours. I worked on Yummy Food but could only find a scolding voice about Americans eating too much sugar. Bah. True but not interesting.

So, I gave Y a go again. Y is for?

"I was Scott Simon's teller."

9/22/2023

First of all - Thank you to those of you who came to the Wisconsin Writers Association zoom gala last night. I HAD received an email a week ago which said I would be reading my whole story. Cutting it in half while I was reading was awkward! It was still a happy event for me and the other writers. Thanks for being there! 

X is for Xeriscape

9/20/2023

Xeriscape is pronounced ‘zeer-eh-scape’ and it means landscaping with little to no irrigated water. Readers in the west already know about this. Those of us who don’t live in arid or desert places need to wake up to the incredible resource that water is - then begin to accommodate ourselves to “water all around and beneath us all the time” is no longer our reality. Nor is it our right. We’ve got to get smarter and do better.

W is for Wonder

9/13/202

To whomever suggested Wonder - Thank You!  ‘Wonder’ has been bobbing in my mind like a frog in a pond.

However, I have FOUR suggestions from you guys for X - but I do not want to write four X essays. These are the suggestions:

1.) X signature substitution

2.) xylophone on a string pulled by a toddler

3.) xenophobia

4.) Xmas. 

If you have an opinion respond with the one you would like me to attempt. I will choose whichever X gets the most comments.

There will be no gerrymandering in this election.

GNTL - NAMI

9/7/2023

Grownups Noticing Their Lives

NAMI

Most of you know about my former weird and lovely job of coordinating an employability skills program for Huber-qualified inmates in the Racine County Jail (that’s a mouthful). Early on I realized that most of the people I would work with were people with 1.) huge addiction problems, and 2.) underlying and over-the-top and to-the-side just lying around mental health issues.

V is for Vocabulary

9/6/2023 

For those who are new here - This year I am writing about topics, in alphabetical order, that were suggested to me by readers. Sometimes this is hard! 

IRTNOG

My cousin-in-law Dave has some powerfully thorough avocations (for fun and profit he earned a PhD in biochemistry; you will notice this in his list). This year, among other pursuits, he has been collecting words which have appeared in our culture since 1945, which was the year he also appeared in our culture.

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