It's not hard to find experts who will teach us how to manage our children. But that both exhausts and bores me; I don't want a system. I don't want to maximize my kids' potential - whatever that might mean.
Kids are not adventure equipment, or status symbols, or raw material to channel through the factory of my ego-whims.
I am not here to tell you how to get your kid to eat her lunch, go to bed on time, or to devise a homework schedule. I used many child rearing techniques in my 20 years of parenting, but almost every "system" eventually fell away.
What I want to understand is how we should LIVE. How can we live our lives so that our choices, struggles, joys and battles can help to foster the lives of our children and ourselves?
Do we know what we want when we “raise our kids”? Do we know what our goals and hopes are? Are we as clear as possible on what our mission is?
I can speak to the theoretical and then to the nitty-gritty of raising good kids who, we hope and pray, can take care of themselves and this world as they grow up.